It’s a sad truth that wisdom only comes with time, and, by
extension…age.
The more experiences we collect in a lifetime, the more we
learn to avoid the pitfalls that unfailingly pop up along the way.
It’s just how it is, young people. You may be wise beyond
your years and college degrees…but until you’ve left the house with a pop tart
stuck in your overzealous toaster…well, need I say more.
Yeah, probably…but I’ve also learned, over nearly 60 years, that
saying more usually leads to trouble.
Wisdom….
But those are just minor examples of the way wisdom sneaks
into our lives over time. It just can’t be helped.
I’m sure you’ve all have had real experiences, no matter
what your age, that have changed the way you see and spend your days. Even the way you experience this hectic
holiday season that has taken on the now, all-encompassing, label of “Christmas”.
“Christmas”, for
many who participate, has superseded the actual “Holi-Day” and become an entire
season unto itself. Kind of a fifth
season that has taken root right in the middle of fall, and doesn’t end until well
after the official start of winter.
Of course there’s the shopping, the decorating and the
partying…not to mention the merrymaking, which is very different from partying,
because merrymaking is peculiar at any other time of year.
Yep…Christmas activities and customs abound, from family to
family…from friend to friend.
But what I’ve discovered, through my own acquired wisdom, is
that the older I’ve gotten the more mechanical and less magical it has all
become…at least for me.
As if every year I pull out a list and methodically check
off all the things I need to do in order to have a memorable holiday season, or
at least a holiday season that matches my preconceived notion of memorable; one
that, let’s face it, stems from feelings and traditions that go back to when I
was two, because, curiously, I had very few holiday traditions when I was one.
Then, of course, the further I fall behind on that list, the
larger the mountain of stress is that grows on my shoulders.
“When am I ever going
to find time to annoy Santa at Rye Ridge…or even find where Santa is at Rye
Ridge?”
“I’ve only seen ‘A
Charlie Brown’ Christmas’ four times this year!”
“Where’s my Leg Lamp
and George Baily Football Jersey?”
“Who stepped on my
only copy of ‘Dominick the Donkey’?”
I know…right?
This manufactured, mechanical stress ultimately leads to
distraction. The distraction leads to making
a forbidden left turn off of North Main Street onto Adee …which leads to a
summons and discovering you’ve forgotten your license…which leads to forgetting
to order the food for the Christmas party, which turns out not to be a problem
since you’ve also forgotten to invite the guests, even though you did remember
to buy 6 cases of beer and wine, which leads to lots of Holiday Cheer, without
the cheer, which leads to December 26th and you saying…
“I don’t know why, but
it all goes so fast, and I just don’t enjoy Christmas the way I did before”.
Then, one day, the wisdom kicks in, right around the time
you come to terms with the fact that the puffiness under your eyes and those
creases around your mouth aren’t going away, after five years of gel
treatments…and you say….
“Hey, maybe this year,
I’ll just enjoy Christmas for whatever it is, and however it plays out…even if old
Uncle Wilbur does bring another 22 year old girlfriend to dinner”.
Maybe, just maybe…if
we put away the lists of expectations, lessen the anticipation and allow
ourselves to follow the Holiday Spirit down whatever road it leads us, in any
given year, be it happy…or as it happens, sometimes, sad…then we can’t help but
truly experience the gift and the wisdom of Christmas, the way it was intended…for
this year and every year to come.
Each is new …each is different…with nothing guaranteed and
nothing to measure up to other than what you allow it to be.
Happy…sad…or somewhere in between…there’s always magic to be
found in Christmas, but the magic begins with you.
That’s the Christmas Wisdom that’s come to me…slowly,
quietly, evolving even still.
Enjoy the Christmas that is, while it is…and let the night
be bright.
Certainly not easy to do…but definitely worth a try.
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You are gifted. And the wisdom you shared today is your gift to your many readers. Thank you - and have an especially happy day tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Joan, as always.... Same to you and Snowball!
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